Getting your ex boyfriend back can be quite a tall order, especially if you have no idea why he broke up with you. If this is the case then the best thing that you can do is to accept the fact that your relationship with him has already ended.
This is because it is much easier to think things over if you are not being bothered by whether he is still your boyfriend or not. Once your mind is set regarding this, you will then be able to focus on your main goal, which is getting your ex boyfriend back.
Now to start things off, you should keep in mind that in getting your ex boyfriend back, you will have to exert extra effort in a way that you might not have done in the past. This is especially true if you are either a conservative or a prideful woman.
If you are not willing to do so, then by all means stop crying because of him and get moving on with your life. But if you really are determined about getting him back then you had better get yourself prepared.
Since you have already set your mind that he isn’t your boyfriend anymore, the next thing to do is to try to understand by yourself what the reason for the break up was. This is essential for knowing where you stand. Knowing this will play a major role on how you will approach him and which methods you will use in getting your ex boyfriend back.
It is also important that you do not discuss this with anyone you know and try to make decisions based on another person’s opinion for there will surely be biases. These biases in turn will greatly affect your expectations in the wrong light.
The time will come for you to come into contact with him. When you do make sure that you speak in a sweet but not flirtacious voice in order to entice him to talk with you. If he refuses a conversation then respect his decision and come back another time.
You should understand that it is not only women who have issues regarding sensitivity. He might be feeling embarrassed at the moment, so let things cool off for a few days or a week. After doing so, approach him again in a way that would not intimidate him.
Just be casual but straight to the point. Ask him right away in a concerned manner if you could talk with him in private, “just to clear things up between the both of you.”
Once you are both alone, listen to his explanation. Do not interrupt him while he is speaking. Keep the questions to yourself and then ask them when he is done talking. When your turn comes, explain your side as clearly as possible and go ahead and ask anything else that you would like to know. This way, your conversation would be calm and easy to understand.
After all has been said, do not forget to apologize, even if it turns out that it wasn’t your fault. You did have your own share of misinterpretations that added to the breakup.
If after the exchange of apologies he hasn’t said anything about making up then go ahead and initiate the topic yourself. This will prove that you really want him back and open up the door for a possible happy ending.
Do remember though that you shouldn’t treat your new relationship with him as a continuation of the old one. Treat it as a new relationship and a new beginning so that the expectations of the past wouldn’t be able to tarnish your new found love.
